Firstly, if you are reading this then please accept our heartfelt sympathy and apologies, as you are now dealing with what is probably the worst days of your life.
You will have many questions, where, when, why, how, some of these questions may be answered and some may not, and some may also be answers that you do not want to hear.
You will want someone to blame, someone to be punished, sadly this may also not always happen.
You will want to know what happens next, why things take as long as they do, you will be asked many times ‘what would you like to do’ when it comes to making decisions, all you want to do is go back, but you can’t, and you don’t know what to do because you’re now faced with something that you have never contemplated before.
Remember there is no such thing as a stupid question, if you don’t know something, ask, there is no right or wrong way of what you should or shouldn’t do or feel or behave.

Don’t be afraid to talk to anybody and everybody, share ideas and thoughts about what to do next and how to remember and honour the person you’ve lost. Think about what they loved and enjoyed, what made them laugh and smile.
Having to suddenly arrange a funeral is something very few of us have planned for or thought about, and again you will be asked ‘what would you like to do’, when truthfully you probably don’t even know where to start, you may want to consider who you chose to carry this out based on reputation or how close they are to you,
In our experience we chose a small family run business who went above and beyond, allowing us and our family and friends to visit as much as we wanted to say our goodbyes, Don’t be afraid to ask for things such as a lock of hair or a fingerprint, you can chose their final clothes, and even have a coffin personal to the one you’ve lost, these are available in various themes, cars, flowers, characters, and we found it to be of very similar cost to the traditional options.